Shauna Lauren Perlman and Julie Sujin Oh were on familiar turf as they went from party to partyafter the 2014 Tony Awards ceremony at Radio City Music Hall in Manhattan.
“We were both in work mode, but able to let the background noise disappear as we engaged in a genuine warm conversation,” said Ms. Perlman, then a New York talent agent, who now focuses on representing actors at Creative Artists Agency in Los Angeles. She graduated from Northwestern.
Ms. Perlman, 33, was at the Tonys to support her clients, while Ms. Oh (left), 32, was there as part of her job as a vice president for production and development at the former Weinstein Company. She is now a film producer working in Manhattan on the Netflix musical drama film directed by Lin-Manuel Miranda, “Tick, Tick … Boom!” She graduated from the University of California, San Diego.
She and Ms. Perlman had crossed paths at screenings and industry events in the months before the Tonys, and at some point had exchanged numbers. Ms. Perlman texted Ms. Oh after the show on that June 8, 2014, about meeting with her and her father, Lee H. Perlman, who is on the board of the American Theater Wing, at the Plaza Hotel after-party.
“I just know I never met anyone as interesting as her,” Ms. Oh said.
After Ms. Perlman’s father left around midnight, they took in a couple of more parties, and ended the evening as many do at the after-after party at the Carlyle Hotel.
“Some people stay until sunrise,” Ms. Oh said. “We stayed until 4 or 5.”
Later they shared a car that dropped Ms. Perlman off in the Flatiron district, and then took Ms. Oh to Williamsburg, Brooklyn. They stayed in touch over the next month.
“It didn’t immediately resonate that it could be romantic,” said Ms. Perlman, who until then only dated men.
In late July, Ms. Perlman, in her mind as a romantic gesture, invited Ms. Oh to a movie screening on the Upper West Side. “I didn’t know if it was a date,” Ms. Oh said, “but I was hoping.”
After the movie they each had a glass of wine outdoors at a restaurant across from Lincoln Center, and later in a cab they had their first kiss.
“I was really scared leading up to it,” Ms. Perlman said. “Once it happened, I had this feeling of Wow, I made the right choice.”
In April 2016, they moved in together in TriBeCa, and about a year and a half later they moved to Los Angeles when Ms. Perlman began working at the Creative Arts Agency.
In May 2019, Ms. Oh used Ms. Perlman’s birthday as an excuse to get her to New York, and decided to propose during a helicopter ride early on the day of her so-called birthday party at the Fleur Room in Chelsea, which proved to be a perfectly-timed cover for an engagement party. Ms. Oh came prepared for the noisy helicopter ride with a dozen index cards that she pulled out over the Hudson, which led up to the ultimate one that said: “Will you marry me?”
In December, Ms. Perlman proposed over dinner on a beach at sunset in Zihuatanejo, Mexico, and they began discussing wedding plans as the pandemic set in.
“I’m an extreme introvert and Shauna is an extreme extrovert,” said Ms. Oh. “When we started thinking of our dream wedding we had different ideas. We were able to do a small marriage ceremony and she gets to throw the biggest party.”
They were married Aug. 11 by Rachel Hoffman, a deputy commissioner of civil marriage, on the lawn of Santa Barbara City Hall in Santa Barbara, Calif.